Seven Years

Posted under Parenting by metzgerbusiness on Wednesday 29 April 2009 at 12:05 am

It was seven years ago tonight when I began this current journey I’m on. That was when we, my wife and I, lost our first born a son. That was the day I became a daddy. Eleven months later our first daughter was born 2 months too early, but I became a daddy 7 years ago tonight. That night was the beginning of the most wonderful experience I have had in my life time. It was that night that I first got a glimpse of understanding of what it means to care about someone or something more than yourself. It was that first stab of a knife to the hart that opened it to the wonderful gift of parenthood.

It’s now seven years later and I have a wonderful six year old. Below is some video of her trotting this past weekend. Who would have thought five years ago when we finally diagnosed the CP she would have been trotting on a horse and climbing walls.

And the little one. What a character. “yeth”= “yes”, “babby”=”Abby”, “yeah-yeah”= “Haley”, “I Abby”, “I Abby Cadabby”, “I Abbadoodle”.

Here’s Abby Cadabby on the mic

Man, I enjoy work, I enjoy friends, but there is nothing as fun and exciting as raising kids. Teaching them, Challenging them, helping them to challenge themselves. Loving them, and even smushing their cheeks. Laughing with them, Laughing at them, teasing them, Being daddy, being dad, being a patient, being a mom, wearing a funny hat, wearing crazy t-shirts that say SupperDad with pride, having a mug made just for you and having your daughter remind you every day you drink from it and drinking from it every day just to hear her say it again. Falling asleep with her when you put her to bed while she is talking to you because you just can’t keep up with her. Tossing them on the bed, pillow fights, dress up, being doctor, giving back rides, being tough, being all of this. Being soo much less, being soo much more. Being entirely loved no matter what you look like, smell like, feel like, having them notice the mole on your neck and asking daddy are your ok. Being everything and more to the kids and knowing it. Is there anything like being a dad? Is there anything that can make you want to be the best that you can be, more than your kids, your wife, your family. They’ll love you if you fail at everything else and fail them and they’ll still love you. I think I might know why too, maybe it’s because your kids know your soul and they almost never loose and attachment to it. I know i’ll never lose my attachment to my first son who I lost 7 year ago tonight. I love you Zack, I love the soul I hope I’ll get to know someday.

and I can’t wait to do it all again with #3. Coming Early October.

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  • Leigh

    hey kev. i know someone who should read this, any ideas, love the emphysis put on family and kids. we love you :)

  • Leigh

    hey kev. i know someone who should read this, any ideas, love the emphysis put on family and kids. we love you :)

  • Tiffany

    Very touching- we are so blessed to have family

  • Tiffany

    Very touching- we are so blessed to have family

  • Gayle -

    Wow, #3 in early October – congrats to all of you!! (but don’t you mean #4?)

    • admin

      Gayle,

      Thank you, and I suppose you are right.

  • Gayle -

    Wow, #3 in early October – congrats to all of you!! (but don’t you mean #4?)

    • admin

      Gayle,

      Thank you, and I suppose you are right.

  • Alyson

    Wow Kevin!! That was beautiful! You are a wonderful daddy!

  • Alyson

    Wow Kevin!! That was beautiful! You are a wonderful daddy!

  • Dad

    Kev,

    What a touching and beautifully written narrative of your life and Haley’s. Reading it had me feeling more blessed (as much as I normally do, and gratefull and thankfull) for the son – and man you’ve become. I’m proud and happy for you. Keep it going, son; you’re a GREAT father!

    Love,
    Dad.

  • Dad

    Kev,

    What a touching and beautifully written narrative of your life and Haley’s. Reading it had me feeling more blessed (as much as I normally do, and gratefull and thankfull) for the son – and man you’ve become. I’m proud and happy for you. Keep it going, son; you’re a GREAT father!

    Love,
    Dad.

  • http://worldsstrongestlibrarian.com/ Josh Hanagarne

    Beautiful Kevin. Hat’s off to you. I’ve been there and I sympathize, empathize, and everything else. Not everyone makes it back from the damage this does. You have all my admiration and respect.

  • http://worldsstrongestlibrarian.com/ Josh Hanagarne

    Beautiful Kevin. Hat’s off to you. I’ve been there and I sympathize, empathize, and everything else. Not everyone makes it back from the damage this does. You have all my admiration and respect.

  • admin

    Josh,

    Thank you for your comment and comming by to read the post, and you have my admiration and respect both for having been through the same stuff and for your increadible blog.

    Folks visit Josh’s blog at World’s Strongest Librarian. He is an awesome inspiration.

  • admin

    Josh,

    Thank you for your comment and comming by to read the post, and you have my admiration and respect both for having been through the same stuff and for your increadible blog.

    Folks visit Josh’s blog at World’s Strongest Librarian. He is an awesome inspiration.

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