Comments on: Crazy!!!

By: Jack Hatfield

Jack Hatfield — Fri, 19 Mar 2010 19:35:03 +0000

There is nothing wrong with small, but we can go big as well. You have seen www.FixtheFamilyFixAmerica.org right?

www.PositiveFathering.com

I want you to be a regional expert and let's get one started. Give me a direct email when you are ready to talk!

We can do this!

By: beyondnormal

beyondnormal — Fri, 19 Mar 2010 00:59:48 +0000

Writing is one step – sharing is another.

Thank you

By: R_Mattocks

R_Mattocks — Fri, 19 Mar 2010 00:10:40 +0000

@tessasdad? sure do know him – super guy. You two are NE PA & I'm NW PA (just below Erie)

By: metzgerbusiness

metzgerbusiness — Thu, 18 Mar 2010 22:18:09 +0000

Jeff, It's interesting but I really couldn't write because I didn't know what to do about this situation. Wirting it down has helped me let go a little. And the encouragement that everyone has shown has helped a lot. Thank you.

By: metzgerbusiness

metzgerbusiness — Thu, 18 Mar 2010 22:16:37 +0000

Ilan, I enjoyed our conversation and appriciate your thoughts. I hope we get the opportunity to see eachother this summer. We'll talk again soon.

Thanks for the email.

By: metzgerbusiness

metzgerbusiness — Thu, 18 Mar 2010 22:13:57 +0000

Jack, I'm glad you came by. I look forward to talking with you sometime soon and perhaps organizing a daddy confrence down here in the south east. Not necesarily something on a large scale but perhaps something where we get speakers like yourself and others and cover a varity of topics. Let me know what you think about the idea. It might be cool to do something where we cover, parenting, tech/web/social, personal time, business, finance, fitness, wives/women, etc.

By: metzgerbusiness

metzgerbusiness — Thu, 18 Mar 2010 22:07:03 +0000

Ron, Thanks for your encouraging words. It feels good to make progress on projects and I'm truly excited aobut The DADvocate project. I recorded my second PodCast last night with @tessasdad. It was great conversation and turns out we grew up in the same area in NEPA (North East PA). I'm not sure if you guys know eachother but you should check him out.

By: beyondnormal

beyondnormal — Thu, 18 Mar 2010 21:00:54 +0000

One other thought of encouragement – your ability to share this situation may be of assistance to others to be more open about something in their lives that is having similar consequences to them.

Acknowledging these situations is always a step toward resolution.

By: beyondnormal

beyondnormal — Thu, 18 Mar 2010 20:57:28 +0000

Thanks for your openness – this is an issue I have difficulty connecting with because it is totally outside my experience base with my parents.

Unfortunately, however, you are being placed in a difficult place to make a decision between enabling unacceptable behavior and what some would see as 'honoring' your parent by accepting his behavior.

The only answer it would seem to me is to continue to show love to all involved as best you see it. I pray for your peace in this matter.

By: ilanweinberg

ilanweinberg — Thu, 18 Mar 2010 17:55:52 +0000

Hey bro, sorry to hear about the recent incidents with your dad. You gotta go see him. Life is too short – take your kids & wife with you. You grew up under the shadow of an estranged relationship between your father & his relatives, never knowing members of your own family, past generations, etc. Your dad is forcing you to recreate that for your own children. Don't let him. Just take your family, meet for lunch & then 30 minutes in a park afterwards, bring some small gifts that your kids can make for your dad & then head back home. He'll keep the gifts and hopefully it will be easier for him to agree to see you next time. Think of how you felt throughout your life when thinking about the blockage in your father's relationships and how that separated you from your relatives – you don't want your kids feeling the same way. Make the visit short & in a neutral location.